Posted by: Angela | August 19, 2019

Body Image and Massage

Body Image: Risk and Reward in Massage

Body image. Almost everybody has something about their body that they don’t like. For many people it’s a minor issue, no big deal. But some people have a major issue with their body image. It affects how they live and their happiness.

When I tell some people that I’m a massage therapist it can cause a strong reaction. They tell me, whether verbally or through their reaction and body language, that massage is not for them. Their body image is such an issue that they don’t think anybody else can accept them.

The paradox here is that massage can really help with body image issues. In massage school we were all nervous about taking off our clothes and letting somebody else touch us. It didn’t take long for us to discover that bodies are just bodies and become much more comfortable with our own. We also experienced how good receiving a massage made us feel. Something unexpected happened – when our bodies felt better we felt better about our bodies.

I think there are three options to consider. Let’s look at the risk versus reward for them.

1. Don’t get a massage.

This is the easiest because it involves doing nothing. The risk is low since you are not letting another person see or touch you at all.

The reward is zero. You didn’t get a massage so your body doesn’t feel any better, and you still have the stress you had before.

2. You get a massage, but the massage therapist either makes note of how you look, as if it matters.

If this has happened to you, I’m sorry. You got a crappy massage therapist. That’s a bummer, and I’m really sorry. You took a risk, and even if the rest of the massage was decent, got very little reward.

This is not going to happen if you come to me. Never. No way. I can’t say this strongly enough. It goes against the very nature of who I am, how I treat people, and what I believe.

3. You get a massage. A great massage. And the therapist does nothing to make you feel uncomfortable about your body. In fact, you feel pretty good about your body after the massage.

In this option your risk is low. I don’t care how your body looks. That’s none of my business. I just want to help it feel better. Your reward is high. Again your body will feel better from the
massage and you can start feeling better about it.

I have no idea how your body got to be in the condition that it’s in. You may be dealing with something that you can’t control, such as a medical condition or an injury or accident. You may be in a lot of pain or are limited in what you can do physically. Since I don’t know what caused your body to be like it is now I can’t make any judgments about you.

I’ve worked on many people. Each body is interesting and I’ve yet to come across one that I could not help.

If you have been avoiding massage because you feel uncomfortable about your body, let’s find an option that works for you. You don’t even have to explain anything to me. Leave your clothes on. Stay sitting up or face down or lying on your side or however you want. It’s up to you.

It’s my job to help you feel better. That’s it. Together let’s find a way to help you relieve your pain and stress. Don’t let your body image keep you from feeling good.

 

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Posted by: Angela | September 12, 2018

Mini-massage on Saturday, Sept. 15

Come and try a mini-massage session this Saturday, Sept. 15th, from 11am to 4pm. Only $15 for a 20 minute session. Text or email to set up an appointment in advance.

Healing Arts Sampler

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Please spread the word…. this is a new location for our low cost samplers. Psychic fairs will continue to be in Niwot.

Posted by: Angela | August 19, 2018

Naps, naps, and more naps…

Naps are not just for babies and young children, you know, but for people of all ages. It’s siesta time!!!

The focus, concentration and energy levels are not the same throughout the day, regardless of your long night sleep. So if you want to recharge and get your energy back, a simple nap can do wonders for you.

http://cleanfitnessrecipes.com/napping-can-dramatically-increase-learning-memory-awareness-and-more/

Book a half hour massage and get your nap in while your muscles get relaxed. Wake up relaxed and refreshed.

NEW… Starting in Sept. I’ll be offering 20 minute coffee break massage for only $15. From 11am to 3pm on Wednesdays only. Text to make your appointment. Prepayment required to hold your space via PayPal to serenityunlimited@earthlink.net.  If you want to give it a try, see me at the next Healing Arts Sampler in Longmont on Saturday, Sept. 15.  www.boulderhealers.com/sampler/.

Posted by: Angela | May 2, 2018

How a Lack of Touch is Destroying Men

In American culture, we believe that men can never be entirely trusted in the realm of the physical. We collectively suspect that, given the opportunity, men will revert to the sexual at a moment’s notice. That men don’t know how to physically connect otherwise.

Men need gentle platonic touch in their lives just as much as women do.

Men experience touch isolation

And where does this leave men? Physically and emotionally isolated. Cut off from the deeply human physical contact that is proven to reduce stress, encourage self esteem and create community. Instead, we walk in the vast crowds of our cities alone in a desert of disconnection. Starving for physical connection.

We crave touch. We are cut off from it. The result is touch isolation.

Why are men avoiding even platonic contact and what damage is this causing them? Here’s how we can heal the physical and emotional isolation of men.
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Posted by: Angela | April 30, 2018

Massage, as good as a hug!

From #4 – Touch People
‘Research shows getting five hugs a day for four weeks increases happiness big time.

Don’t have anyone to hug right now? No? (I’m sorry to hear that. I would give you a hug right now if I could.) But there’s an answer: neuroscience says you should go get a massage.

Via The Upward Spiral:

The results are fairly clear that massage boosts your serotonin by as much as 30 percent. Massage also decreases stress hormones and raises dopamine levels, which helps you create new good habits… Massage reduces pain because the oxytocin system activates painkilling endorphins. Massage also improves sleep and reduces fatigue by increasing serotonin and dopamine and decreasing the stress hormone cortisol.

So spend time with other people and give some hugs. Sorry, texting is not enough.

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You get all kinds of happiness advice on the internet from people who don’t know what they’re talking about. Don’t trust them. Trust neuroscience.
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